Sarabet Chang Yuye

I think people mostly get better after relationships, not during them

Sun, 04 Oct 2026 07:00:00 GMT

Change most happens when your external environment shifts, right?

Notes: Expected IQ decline over lifetime

Fri, 25 Sep 2026 07:00:00 GMT

Intelligence decreases substantially as you age; this affects planning for my own life and interacting with my family

The coats my mom gifts me

Wed, 16 Sep 2026 07:00:00 GMT

Here is another unsympathetic post about money.

Whoa, many of my longtime acquaintances are suddenly very rich

Sun, 13 Sep 2026 07:00:00 GMT

I need to pick one or two of my current embarrassing feelings to blog about, because if I don't, my head is going to explode like one of those deep sea fish that are physiologically unaccustomed to keeping their innards in.

Silence on Tlenet

Thu, 10 Sep 2026 07:00:00 GMT

"Even if the meaning is obvious, someone's inability to spell means there's something a little wrong with their minds. They don't care to learn the standards of society, or they can't. Alarming either way..."

Notes on my most offline period in 17 years

Wed, 09 Sep 2026 07:00:00 GMT

It was glorious but it kind of sucked!

The other child minders at the park

Sat, 05 Sep 2026 19:55:08 GMT

When I go to the playground with my toddler, the other children are usually minded by older women who speak Spanish to each other. I’ve been watching them idly, wondering whether to hire childcare – either as a temporary measure to cover medical appointments, or a longterm one to give us more breathing room.

Snapshot of a day: parenting a 16mo old

Mon, 31 Aug 2026 07:00:00 GMT

What my day is like.

My Father's Misomoria

Sun, 30 Aug 2026 07:00:00 GMT

Assigned enemy at paternal line.

Writing shorter posts in September

Sun, 30 Aug 2026 07:00:00 GMT

I have a lot of long incomplete posts. I also feel isolated and unknown during my month of being offline (which will partially extend into September). So I'm limiting myself to <500 posts for the month, which will likely naturally make me post a ...

The Goblin King

Fri, 21 Aug 2026 07:00:00 GMT

I've read about four books on how to plot novels. I've never been able to use what I learned to write one. I run into problems, and I don't know how to solve them. Couldn't connect theory and practice. Things are different with Claude.

Photograph the scans doctors show you

Wed, 12 Aug 2026 07:00:00 GMT

I think this is a habit worth installing.

Mo' Moldering Mogust

Sat, 08 Aug 2026 07:00:00 GMT

When August began, I found myself asking if there's a much weaker version of bipolar (there is, it's called cyclothymia) and whether I have it.

On learning English like an LLM

Sat, 08 Aug 2026 07:00:00 GMT

Earlier this year, my husband surprised me by referring to the neighbor's tree whose shade was stunting our apricot tree as 'the beech'. How did he know it was a beech?

On developing Gallae

Mon, 20 Jul 2026 07:00:00 GMT

On making something big with a partner, using AI for code, being gayer than expected, and my purpose in life.

Gallae: a website for anarchic branching cowriting

Thu, 02 Jul 2026 07:00:00 GMT

My partner and I vibecoded a fiction cowriting website. For at least the near future, I will be publicly updating my works in progress there.

Squirmy Worm

Sun, 28 Jun 2026 07:00:00 GMT

"Evolutionarily, it seems implausible that children be so hard. You don't think it's... suspicious?"

Parenting and socializing, 1.3 years in

Tue, 23 Jun 2026 07:00:00 GMT

I list some parenting/socializing scenarios in order of increasing difficulty and misery, and then go on a long tangent about how to guess how badly reproducing will damage your inner individual life.

If you have 10K social media followers you can make a pretty good t-shirt

Sat, 20 Jun 2026 07:00:00 GMT

Last month I designed the best t-shirt I've ever made, for a conference (Manifest) whose shirts I've designed for 3 years now. I went a bit insane for this one – once I saw the glimmer of a really good shirt, I jettisoned the rest of my life for a ...

A meetup of bad and hostile people in a war of all against all

Mon, 15 Jun 2026 07:00:00 GMT

Last week my friends ran an "extreme violent circling" event. They told people to be aggro and tell each other what they really thought and felt about each other. The group promptly fell into acrimony and warfare, which I and some others enjoyed. I ...

CustomInk Bulk Ordering Metis

Wed, 03 Jun 2026 07:00:00 GMT

CustomInk is a good vendor if your designs are simple, or if you have a complex design and know like 10 important things they don't tell you upfront.

Children are good because they are power-hungry, not because they are tame

Sat, 16 May 2026 07:00:00 GMT

From the inside, what's my explanation for children having a quality of goodness that adults don't?

Trip Report: Descending Aella's Staircase

Fri, 15 May 2026 07:00:00 GMT

~20 friends ranked me on ~50 traits, good and bad.

Quasi Review: Cormoran Strike

Tue, 12 May 2026 07:00:00 GMT

It's unfortunate that the best vehicle for a fictional romance is not a romance novel.

I'm online so much because I'm slightly deaf

Sat, 09 May 2026 07:00:00 GMT

Among other reasons.

On coming to live in a house

Wed, 06 May 2026 07:00:00 GMT

I used to mostly live inside my head + outside my house, bypassing the middle zone. Now I live in my house so much. I'm obsessed with my house.

The Devil You Know (a Project Hail Mary fanfiction)

Thu, 30 Apr 2026 07:00:00 GMT

The thing is, I didn’t have anyone in my life to tell me, “Ryland, don’t get into a situationship with the seventy year old woman who shot you into space to die.”

On the $70 Teakhaus cutting board

Tue, 28 Apr 2026 07:00:00 GMT

I hate looking at the deep cuts on our plastic boards, with the tiny curls of plastic at the rifts...

Ran a 10K

Sun, 26 Apr 2026 07:00:00 GMT

My second race. Meandering post because I'm happy.

I am becoming unreachable

Fri, 17 Apr 2026 07:00:00 GMT

Vanishing uneasily into domestic life.

The Woman Who Kept the Spiral Roses

Fri, 03 Apr 2026 07:00:00 GMT

She showed us the rooms that had once been ours. Some of our fabrics still hung from the walls – she folded them up one by one and gave them back to us. Amma said goodbye to the rooms of my dead sisters, and your mother turned away to let her do it, ...

The scores on the wall

Tue, 31 Mar 2026 07:00:00 GMT

Two memories of being a good student in Korea.

Beauvoir, and Wealthy Housewives

Thu, 26 Mar 2026 07:00:00 GMT

I have found being a wealthy housewife to be a strange combination of being an aristocrat and a servant.

The Runnels

Wed, 18 Mar 2026 07:00:00 GMT

It's interesting to think that my baby invites me to these running and hiding games in part because this childhood play was adaptive for animals at risk of predation.

Maybe it's loadbearing that people learn to drive in a high testosterone life phase

Sun, 15 Mar 2026 07:00:00 GMT

One of my crackpot hypotheses.

The Human Allergy to Feedback

Wed, 11 Mar 2026 07:00:00 GMT

Why is our species hypersensitive to explicit negative evaluation?

The Bashing Drive

Thu, 05 Mar 2026 08:00:00 GMT

I recently saw someone online tell an egregious lie about my friend, who met her now-spouse in a somewhat sensational way at an orgy and subsequently had a child with him. This person falsely claimed the friend had gotten pregnant at the orgy (the pregnancy came later, and was planned) and was raising the child alone (they live together and are engaged).

Dinner party rating Trader Joe's frozen meals

Mon, 02 Mar 2026 08:00:00 GMT

I got sixteen friends to sit down to dinner and rate twenty meals on a spreadsheet. Here are the results.

My stupid model of why US healthcare sucks

Sat, 28 Feb 2026 08:00:00 GMT

I think the US is just too poor?

What If I Am Cleaning Forever, a Monologue

Fri, 27 Feb 2026 08:00:00 GMT

A lightly edited life update I gave to friends in a group chat.

My brief attempt to use nicotine gum to jog

Sun, 22 Feb 2026 08:00:00 GMT

In the spirit of reporting null results.

Dude. Jogging just started feeling easy.

Mon, 16 Feb 2026 08:00:00 GMT

Describing what is working for me now, and what in retrospect didn't work when I tried c25k.

Not a Review: Grapes of Wrath (Steinbeck)

Fri, 06 Feb 2026 08:00:00 GMT

People don't write about people who don't read.

Competitive Socializing: Tourney

Fri, 30 Jan 2026 08:00:00 GMT

Event notes for my favorite event I've ever run. Put people in new groups of 4-5 for ten minutes, get them to sticker their favorite interlocutors at the end, and shuffle. The most stickered attendees are publicly acclaimed at the end.

Stop trying to make stay at home parenting high status

Wed, 24 Dec 2025 08:00:00 GMT

People who want to improve the lives of SAHPs or increase fertility should do something else.

The Last Echo

Sun, 30 Nov 2025 08:00:00 GMT

A short story about Neanderthals, and my allergies.

Gutting trout

Sat, 29 Nov 2025 08:00:00 GMT

I got a bit high last week and watched videos of trout being gutted and filleted for twenty minutes.

Life mistake: the house renovation that ate most of my savings

Wed, 26 Nov 2025 08:00:00 GMT

It’s hard to write this mistake post, but it should go into my mistakes folder, as it was the most directly expensive mistake of my life (as opposed to indirectly expensive, due to opportunity cost). When I remember the major decision points, my mind tends to flinch off the thought like some jumping insect.

My retracted BDSM lesbian dating doc

Sun, 23 Nov 2025 08:00:00 GMT

There are some social difficulties explaining my tastes but let's give it a shot. I'd prefer one really great hookup to five thousand judgmental strangers, and that's plausible the ratio I'll actually get

We go to the moon

Thu, 20 Nov 2025 08:00:00 GMT

A few weeks ago, I described this personality shift to my husband, saying that it had been the most impactful meta-change I'd experienced. He was positive about it overall, and added, "One thing I worry about is... well... you know that famous ...